It seems like not too long ago that I wanted to be a musician. I remember this electric feeling I use to get every time I walked into a recording studio or sat down to write a song. Music is something I’m still passionate about and I secretly wish I stuck at it.
Why did I give up on something I loved so dearly? The honest truth is I got caught up in wanting to be ‘successful’. I wanted others to tell me my music was great. I wanted to be a star. And when I didn’t get the validation I felt I ‘deserved’ I began to feel inadequate. My focus shifted from making music to getting attention, and that extinguished what made music special; this also meant I was spending less time making music – which would have helped me to improve and get more of the attention I desired.
I’m telling the story of my failed music career because I learned a valuable lesson: not to worry about what people think.
Its happened to me with my writing also, and I’ve noticed that when my mind is occupied with what people are going to think I don’t write as much, my writers anxiety resurfaces and writing becomes painful. For me, the best way to deal with this is to block everyone out and focus on the task at hand – writing.
If I had my life to live over, I would perhaps have more actual troubles but I’d have fewer imaginary ones. ~Don Herold